A Different Summer

English Springer Spaniel

This is the time when you start thinking about what you are going to do for the summer.  For us, every year the three of us would go upstate to Woodstock.

This time it’s not going to be easy because there will be two.  I am even considering not going to avoid the multiple face to face “I’m so sorry Karen” condolences which mean well but just bring it all back again and have me crying.  Not exactly a fun way to experience your summer.  Would you go or skip this year?

Michael said that the two of us should go anyway in honor of Sir Oliver.  I still don’t know.

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  1. Anne-Sterre says:

    I think you should go. It will be hard, but facing things always end up sort of accepting. It doesn’t mean you will forget Oliver, but it does mean you can be happy that you had Oliver in your life and that the three of you have had such a good time together. Think about all the great memories.

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      Thank and yes we think about the times together constantly.

  2. Lisa says:

    If you aren’t up to going, then this year you can choose a different vacation spot. But you will need to go at somepoint. Maybe right now is just too soon.

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      I know thats the thing putting it off now is just kicking a stone further down the road

  3. Stylista says:

    I know it’s hard Karen but I do think Sir Oliver would want you to go…he’s probably already waiting to see you both…trust that he wouldn’t miss it for the world :-)….

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      I hear you. That’s kind of what I’m thinking too. He was such a happy being.

  4. DKWembley says:

    Karen, I think you should go. It may feel good to recall special memories you share with Sir Oliver, such as things he did and places you all went together. Ultimately, your spirit know what is best for you.

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      Right. I’ll see how I feel over the next month

  5. Mariel says:

    Hi, Karen…I don’t know you, and I didn’t know Sir Oliver, but I don’t know why, every time I read you about Sir Oliver, my eyes became wet. We are also just three with our galgo Maga so I understood you a lot…but you know, you have his memories for ever…Sincerely, Mariel from Spain.

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      Thanks Mariel. Ok so you’re just 3 too so you get it. I will say though that’s good to know that you feel a connection even though we don’t know each other

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  6. Catsinthebag says:

    Hi Karen, I am new to your blog but not, unfortunately, new to losing a loved pet. I can’t tell you what is right for you, because everyone grieves differently. I can tell you that letting Oliver go in a humane way when it was his time, tells me your instincts are good. Do what your gut tells you. If you want to go as a way of honoring him, then go. If you go and it’s too much, you can turn around and come home.
    I hope that someday, you will honor his memory by welcoming another pet into your lives. The experience is too special to not want to do it again! But in the meantime, take care of yourself and don’t push it too much. Virtual hugs to you!

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      Thank you for this. It means a lot when you guys give your point of view. We’ll see how it goes and either way you’ll know about it here

  7. Dee Gray says:

    i would go. if you don’t you will be at home thinking you didn’t go because of Oliver, and if you go will you maybe think of Oliver but it will be happy. I lost my cat last week. I still think he is going to greet me when I open the door. When I get water I turn to put some in his bowl but it not there. Sometime I almost call his name when I hear a noise. (he was a little trouble maker sometimes) I still hurt but I had the pleasure of living with someone amazing. Go and have fun. He wouldn’t want you not to go.

    • Karen Blanchard says:

      Dee I’m so sorry about your loss. I grew up with cats and still think about the last one that I left behind in London when moving to New York. That cat was with so much significant events that I still miss him. I have done the same as you: i put the key in the door and forget for a second that Ollie’s not there to greet us. Just little things. You are right in that we had the pleasure and blessing of living with someone amazing. Thank you for the advice

      • Dee Gray says:

        my cat (his name was Hey Cat)

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